I once had someone tell me that even if Jesus walked into the room, I wouldn't want to marry Him because my standards are unrealistically high. There is no better word than "offended" to describe how I felt when I was told that. I started doubting the once non-negotiable qualities I desired in a husband. Maybe I am a tad too picky? I stressed over that cold remark for the next few days. At one point, I felt so discouraged that I began to think maybe I should lower my expectations to what people would consider a realistic level. But after several days of constant prayer and examination of my heart, I felt at peace with the standards I had originally established. Now, I am not picky about what my husband is to look like, but as the daughter of a King, I am more than okay with being picky when it comes to the character qualities I want my husband to have. God knows the desires of my heart and I believe that He will definitely acknowledge the important ones. Plus, as said by Jason Everett, by establishing non-negotiable standards for future relationships, a woman builds a castle around her heart. Unless a guy is man enough to ascend the wall, he has no chance of being with her. If you ask me, I want my castle wall to be pretty high so that only the man worthy of my heart will be able to climb it. And if my wall is too high for any man to climb, than I will live my life without the regret of settling for less than what God would have wanted for me.
So whenever a man tells you that your standards are too high.... Realize that, chances are, he is probably intimidated by the height of the wall you have built around your heart. Instead of "manning up" and climbing the wall, he is trying to take the short cut by pressuring you to lower it!
And when a woman criticizes you for having unrealistic standards..... Understand that she may be envying the courage you have to wait for the right man rather than just settling for anyone.
In the meantime, keep guarding that precious heart of yours from cheap love! Put boundaries on your desires and don't go after everything you see. Trust that God is writing you the perfect love story and don't feel pressured to lower your standards out of impatience or because of criticism. God knows the deepest desires of our hearts. I don't believe He'd put them in our hearts if he never intended to do something with them! Find peace in that.
PS: I would take being in Jesus's presence over meeting the man of my dreams any day!!
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